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So often do we get caught up in the rigmarole of our hectic and busy lives with our jobs and our families, that we easily forget one of the most important aspects of our child’s life - his or her emotional well-being. The most critical times in a child’s life are the first three years. In this critical phase, constantly switching providers of childcare or having a ‘part time’ parent come irregularly in their lives can be extremely destabilizing and traumatic for the child. Just as the child’s physical needs are met, it is equally important to meet his or her emotional needs and it is the duty of the involved adults like parents, educators and care providers to make a joint effort towards achieving this on a daily basis. If a child’s emotional requirements are not satisfied, especially up till the age of three, it can have devastating effects on him or her. It can result in disruptive, defiant and violent behavior.

There are a number of reasons why the first three years of the child’s life are so important. This is the period when emotional separation and bonding takes place. Misbehavior on the child’s part can result if either one of these processes is interrupted. This can have far reaching consequences in their relationships in life and can hinder the development of healthy relationships when they become adolescents and adults.

The brain undergoes extremely rapid development up till the age of three; a kind of development which never repeats again in life. By the age of three, the child’s brain has already cemented from what they have experienced up till that point. Therefore, it becomes necessary that these experiences should be supportive, loving, positive and safe, so that the brain can be conditioned to function positively. If they have had hurtful, frightening, dangerous or abusive experiences, then without doubt the brain will be conditioned to expect negativity.

For all these reasons, it is imperative that the caregivers, parents and all involved adults should try hard to ensure that emotionally, the child’s needs are always met positively and in a manner that is healthy and constructive. Parents should make sure that the care providers of the child are consistent and stable and see to it that the care provider is not changed too many times. The child will feel secure and safe only if it is given a consistent and structured routine and schedule. During this period, you must try to spend a lot of quality time with your child regardless of how busy and stressed you may be. Sensing stress is a frightful situation for children and you must ensure this doesn’t take place. Therefore you need to constantly remind him or her that you are not too busy to take him or her out.

You must never forget that a child’s emotional need is as important as its physical needs and you need to do your part in order to ensure that your child knows he or she is secure, safe, loved and treasured.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/your-childs-emotional-well-being-how-to-ensure-it-740354.html

So often do we get caught up in the rigmarole of our hectic and busy lives with our jobs and our families, that we easily forget one of the most important aspects of our child’s life - his or her emotional well-being. The most critical times in a child’s life are the first three years. In this critical phase, constantly switching providers of childcare or having a ‘part time’ parent come irregularly in their lives can be extremely destabilizing and traumatic for the child. Just as the child’s physical needs are met, it is equally important to meet his or her emotional needs and it is the duty of the involved adults like parents, educators and care providers to make a joint effort towards achieving this on a daily basis. If a child’s emotional requirements are not satisfied, especially up till the age of three, it can have devastating effects on him or her. It can result in disruptive, defiant and violent behavior.

There are a number of reasons why the first three years of the child’s life are so important. This is the period when emotional separation and bonding takes place. Misbehavior on the child’s part can result if either one of these processes is interrupted. This can have far reaching consequences in their relationships in life and can hinder the development of healthy relationships when they become adolescents and adults.

The brain undergoes extremely rapid development up till the age of three; a kind of development which never repeats again in life. By the age of three, the child’s brain has already cemented from what they have experienced up till that point. Therefore, it becomes necessary that these experiences should be supportive, loving, positive and safe, so that the brain can be conditioned to function positively. If they have had hurtful, frightening, dangerous or abusive experiences, then without doubt the brain will be conditioned to expect negativity.

For all these reasons, it is imperative that the caregivers, parents and all involved adults should try hard to ensure that emotionally, the child’s needs are always met positively and in a manner that is healthy and constructive. Parents should make sure that the care providers of the child are consistent and stable and see to it that the care provider is not changed too many times. The child will feel secure and safe only if it is given a consistent and structured routine and schedule. During this period, you must try to spend a lot of quality time with your child regardless of how busy and stressed you may be. Sensing stress is a frightful situation for children and you must ensure this doesn’t take place. Therefore you need to constantly remind him or her that you are not too busy to take him or her out.

You must never forget that a child’s emotional need is as important as its physical needs and you need to do your part in order to ensure that your child knows he or she is secure, safe, loved and treasured.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/your-childs-emotional-well-being-how-to-ensure-it-740354.html

The roles of people participating in Emotional Intelligence (EI) training programs have ranged from executives to administrative staff. While the challenges and pressures people face at various organizational levels are quite different, the emotions they experience are the same. Developing EI skills enables people to become internally self-managed and capable of making their greatest contributions. And when employees work in that zone of peak performance, so does the organization. Below are examples of how development of EI skills can benefit business professionals such as sales people, customer service representatives and technical professionals (i.e., information technologists, analysts, engineers, scientists, etc).

Sales People:

Sales People frequently work with difficult prospects and customers. They often find themselves in adversarial situations over price, features, delivery schedules, etc. As a result of these situations, the sales person and the customer can feel anxious, fearful, frustrated and sometimes angry. This can lead to a vicious negative emotional cycle where sales decline, sales people are unmotivated, and customers are unsatisfied and leave.

When sales people enhance their EI skills, they become more capable of controlling or managing themselves and thus the situation. The likelihood of the customer “pushing their buttons” diminishes. They are more able stay focused on the key issues and not “give-away-the-store”. Research shows that the more optimistic a sales person is, the higher their volume and sales dollars. Optimism leads to persistence which leads to more sales. Being able to empathize with the customer allows for faster, more effective problem-solving and better communication. Developing strong, positive relationships with customers, through thick and thin, ensures higher sales and better cooperation when problems do arise.

Customer Service Representatives:

Customer Service Representatives (CSRs) deal with angry, frustrated customers continuously throughout their day. Through no fault of their own, they can find themselves being verbally abused. The customer’s anger, frustration and rage can cause representatives to become nervous, mad, disgusted, and angry themselves. If the representative does not have a high level of EI skills, the discussion may escalate and require the intervention of the CS Supervisor. Or worse, inadequate skills may cause the company to lose that customer. When a customer becomes upset, he or she typically tells 10-15 friends about the poor treatment.

CSRs who have enhanced their EI skills can easily manage their emotional reactiveness to angry customers, maintaining a calm, polite and sincere attitude and conversation with customers in-the-moment. Loyal customers tell their friends. Higher customer loyalty leads to higher profitability.

Technical Professionals:

Technical Professionals are constantly under pressure to do more with less faster, better, and cheaper. They work long, hard hours to complete projects. They are challenged to create and innovate, interact with a multitude of people from different functions, and do tasks, in many cases, they would like to avoid. As a result, technical professionals may feel resentful, agitated, frustrated, anxious, and stressed-out much of the day. They may experience what is known as “emotional hijacking” which is a physiological response in the brain brought on by negative emotions that literally keeps people from thinking clearly. Creativity is blocked, communication is hampered, and more mistakes and errors are made.

Enhancing the Technical Professional’s EI skills provides them with what they never were taught in school. They learn how to manage their own emotional reactiveness to people and situations and how to build interpersonal skills that allow them to get other technical colleagues to help them when they need it. Enhancing EI skills increases the likelihood that projects are completed on schedule, using the best, innovative thinking available.

Results:

Business professionals have achieved some impressive results as a result of attending EI training programs. Participants have reported a range of 20% to 35% increase in personal productivity, 15% to 35% increased teamwork, a 20% to 40% reduction in stress and worry, and similar improvements in management of emotional reactiveness, personal motivation, creativity, work/life balance and more. These increases can translate into positive return on investment for the organization.

Byron Stock
http://www.articlesbase.com/business-articles/emotional-intelligence-skills-for-business-professionals-688704.html

Emotional Intelligence (EI) is critical in business. The emotions that leaders, employees, and customers feel impact the bottom line of companies and the effectiveness of government and non-profit organizations.

In their Harvard Business Review article, “The Service-Profit Chain,” Hesket et. al. identified a chain of factors driving profitability in a company. Their factors revealed that effective leadership is critical to profitability. The emotions that leaders experience impact the climate and culture of an organization as a whole. More specifically, leaders’ emotions impact

- What employees feel
- The satisfaction employees experience with their company and their work
- How loyal they are and their willingness to give extra effort.
- How productive and efficient they are.

How employees feel and perform their work impact how customers feel, how satisfied they are with both products and services, and ultimately how loyal a customer is to the company or organization. And how loyal customers are has a direct impact on the bottom line and profitability of an organization.

Notice that the foundational element in this set of relationships is leadership. It does not say CEO or Executive Vice President or Director. It says leaders. The in-charge person in every work team, every manager, and every individual in the organization is a leader. Self-leadership is one of the most important factors to focus on in skill development. Whether at work or at home, self-leadership is the internal ability to lead oneself to make the best decisions or choices throughout the day moment-to-moment.

Both positive and negative emotions impact everyone in organizations and the customers they serve. For example, negative emotions may result in poor performance, high stress, increased conflict, low morale, lack of trust and teamwork, more errors, poor quality, increased turnover and more. In turn, these problems may decrease customer satisfaction and increase customer complaints and defection. Ultimately, profitability can be negatively impacted.

Impact:

We can discover the significant impact negative emotions can have on the organization by asking a few questions relating to these problems:

- Which of these problems have you experienced in your organization?
- What is the impact on performance, business objectives, and key initiatives?
- What could your organization achieve if these problems were minimized?

Value of Developing Emotional Competence:

The critical value of developing the Emotional Competence of leaders is supported by additional research. Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, examined competency studies of 200 large global companies and reported the following results in the Nov./Dec., 1998 Harvard Business Review:

“When I calculated the ratio of technical skills, IQ, and emotional intelligence as ingredients of excellent performance, emotional intelligence proved to be twice as important as the others for jobs at all levels.”

His conclusions about senior leaders were even more telling…

“When I compared star performers with average ones in senior leadership positions, nearly 90% of the difference in their profiles was attributable to emotional intelligence factors rather than cognitive abilities.”

Impact on the Bottom Line:

Several studies reveal a direct impact of the organization’s leadership on its bottom line. In the same HBR article (see above), Goleman shares the following findings:

“David McClelland found that when senior managers had a critical mass of emotional intelligence capabilities, their divisions outperformed yearly earnings goals by 20%. Division leaders without that critical mass under performed by almost the same amount.”

In his book Primal Leadership, Goleman, et. al. provides further evidence of the impact of emotional intelligence on the organization’s profitability:

“A study found that the more positive the overall moods of people in the top management team, the more cooperatively they worked together - and the better the company’s business results.”

“In a study of nineteen insurance companies, the climate created by the CEOs among their direct reports predicted the business performance of the entire organization: In 75% of the cases, climate alone accurately sorted companies into high versus low profits and growth.” (Cited in Primal Leadership - research by David McClelland, “Identifying Competencies with Behavior-Event Interviews,” Psychological Science 9, 1998 and David Williams, “Leadership for the 21st Century,” Life Insurance Leadership Study, 1995.)

The Results:

The effects of EI skill development are far-reaching. They go beyond just leadership competencies or management skills. It’s difficult to identify any other organizational improvement intervention that has the potential to positively impact so many organizational problems concurrently. EI skill-building training enhances and complements other values-based and principle-centered programs by providing practical “how-to’s.” EI skills are foundations skills enabling people to improve the “how” of achieving results.

EI training results can be significant. During post-program impact interviews, participants have reported improvements that range from 15% to 35% increased teamwork, 20% to 35% increase in personal productivity, 20% to 40% reduction in stress and worry, and similar improvements in personal motivation, management of emotional reactiveness, work/life balance, creativity and more.

Byron Stock
http://www.articlesbase.com/business-articles/emotional-intelligence-the-business-case-711078.html

Do you believe that there a correlation between the gifts of the Holy Spirit and nurturing care giving?

Yes, of course, and this is why - a spiritually corrupt or a spiritually dead person would not be a nurturing care giver.

The ability to nurture is a spiritual gift. Likewise, all of nature is spiritually driven. A child’s personality is a spiritual thing and I believe children are born innocent. I know not all people agree.

Nature and nurture are interactive spiritually driven forces. Psychologist Donald Hebb once answered : It’s like asking which contributes more to a rectangle, it’s length or it’s width?

A loving home with Godly values can produce wonderful, well-balanced children; a violent home produces less socially and emotionally adequate children - they may need help to learn basic trust and love in order to be productive, happy members of society, and it is too late in some cases.

hope enyone can help me i am finding it hard finding information on how to promote a 13-16 year olds emotional development i need this for a assignment i have been giving on my childcae course hope you can help

You can do exercises that allow them to speak and express themselves emotionally through direct and non-direct channels.
Self-esteem activities are good ones.

and the way you perceive the world?
(btw happy new year!) x

experience, culture, upbringing, mostly experience though.

Except reading or looking at books….

Thanxx in advance!!
Start setting up simple playdates, encourage her to play with others (at first she may need you there to help faciliate, then gradually remove yourself from the situation).

Exposing her to different environments, like what they other poster said, is a good idea too. Take her to the park and encourage her to play with others around her age (just supervise and help if needed). Take her to the store and have her help you shop, etc.

Encourage independence. Start teaching her simple things with helping to undress/dress herself, putting her coat on (do you know how to do the flip–its so easy my 2s that I used to teach learned how. Start with the coat lying flat on the floor, hood towards you. Put arms in and flip jacket over head. It may take a few times and some times with you demonstrating and helping). Also have her help wash up after dinner (give her a facecloth, have her help wash her face and hands, wash hands after potty/diaper, etc (teach her how to wash hands, its a great skill to have especially if she goes to preschool). Start giving her age-appropriate self help skills. Eventually she can also help you put her plate in the sink, etc.

Good luck!

Does this allow for more open connections with others? Or might they expect "too much" from other children or adults as adults? How is this so?

I think it depends on individuals… Some might be spoilt, some might be more independent. Some might be more responsible, while others must have their ways, and tend to be very selfish and self-centred. Oh yes some other children would expect alot from their parent, and throw a tantrum if their wishes are not fulfilled, like spoilt brats. Actually living in a single child family doesn’t really affect a child’s emotional development. It just depends how the parents bring up the child.